Here’s a revealing review from a client of mine and pretty much sums up what I hear from everyone:
I signed up for a three month membership through e-Harmony. I was sent initially several matches. Surprisingly of the ones i was slightly interested in none responded to requests for communication. Of the few that i did make initial contact with it was terribly obvious during our first date that we had no chemistry and our personalities were oil and water!
Here comes the good part. I let my subscription expire…I didn’t cancel it. I still get matches in my email even though my account is not active! Which of course makes me think..hmmm….of all the supposed matches they sent me I wonder just how many did not have an active account????
I made a very nasty phone call to e-Harmony who coughed up a free three month extension. I have gotten total squat for matches. Again the same scenario…no communication, matches that are totally out of line. I am sure that when these three months expire then I will suddenly get a few matches worth looking at in the hopes that I will renew my membership.
I plan to call and ask “What percentage of your members report a successful long term relationship after being matched by your system?” and “What percentage of us report that your service is garbage and a waste of our money”??? I would also like to know if the commercial engagements and marriages are actors or actual matches through e-Harmony?
Regardless…it is sad and unfortunate that e-Harmony is commercializing on the fact of life that we all need and want someone special to love and cherish.
Save your time/money, avoid e-Harmony and stick with top dating sites like Match and Perfect Match.
Hi, I've been a matchmaker for many years and have experience with just about every dating site out there. I have thoroughly reviewed and rated the best
OK, I guess I’m in the minority here. I’ve been on eHarmony for a couple of years. During that time I’ve been “matched” with about 600 women. (literally, I’m not kidding) About 200 of those went on immediate HOLD for “no photo”, and another 200 were “CLOSED” immediately or quickly by one or the other of us for some reason. Another 100 never responded to my attempts to communicate.
BUT, of the 100 who are left, there were probably 30 who I actually dated, and at least six who I had what I would regard as “successful” relationships with. (I’ll define that as dated regularly for more than a month and may or may not have established a sexual relationship with.) All of these eventually broke up, for a variety of reasons, but none of those reasons had anything to do with the eHarmony process itself.
Yes, the process itself is frustrating. When I get through to Open Communication with a woman I always feel like I’m a lab rat who should be given a piece of cheese for running the maze successfully. I’ve got “stock” answers to most of their standard “2nd questions” by now, that I just tailor a bit to fit what I think the individual woman seems to be driving at overall.
And my closest woman friend (brilliant and beautiful … I’d marry her in a minute if she’d have me!) was on there for a year and got no more than about four matches in the entire time, and maybe one date.
But my experience has been pretty good.
I have been a member for over a year and requested matches with-in 50 miles but was told there wern’t many so I was asked if I would consider others, I agreed. Now I get ones from Florida, New York, Southern California. These are all nice places but when I am in the Seattle Washington area they are more than a visiting distance, come on.
Dave Hopkins
This website is a Model T design and as frustrating as any you will visit. In addition to not remembering you when you return. You have to log is like a first time visitor every time. It is so slow that you think you are on a dial up even when you are not. I can’t imagine actually being on dial up modems.
I finally figured it out. The very liberal sociologists who run this site make the programming decisions!
Most of the matches don’t have photos. They use “flexible matching” meaning this probably is not a good match for you but we need to send you something. They send matches that are hundreds of miles away when you ask them not to. The “structured communication” system makes you feel like a child.
There is no way to recommend this site honestly.