Here’s a revealing review from a client of mine and pretty much sums up what I hear from everyone:
I signed up for a three month membership through e-Harmony. I was sent initially several matches. Surprisingly of the ones i was slightly interested in none responded to requests for communication. Of the few that i did make initial contact with it was terribly obvious during our first date that we had no chemistry and our personalities were oil and water!
Here comes the good part. I let my subscription expire…I didn’t cancel it. I still get matches in my email even though my account is not active! Which of course makes me think..hmmm….of all the supposed matches they sent me I wonder just how many did not have an active account????
I made a very nasty phone call to e-Harmony who coughed up a free three month extension. I have gotten total squat for matches. Again the same scenario…no communication, matches that are totally out of line. I am sure that when these three months expire then I will suddenly get a few matches worth looking at in the hopes that I will renew my membership.
I plan to call and ask “What percentage of your members report a successful long term relationship after being matched by your system?” and “What percentage of us report that your service is garbage and a waste of our money”??? I would also like to know if the commercial engagements and marriages are actors or actual matches through e-Harmony?
Regardless…it is sad and unfortunate that e-Harmony is commercializing on the fact of life that we all need and want someone special to love and cherish.
Save your time/money, avoid e-Harmony and stick with top dating sites like Match and Perfect Match.
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Wow, I sure wish I had read all these horrible comments before I wasted over a YEAR and 1/2 of my life and feel like the ugliest woman on the planet!
I think the worst are the “canned” comments to close someone out… Don’t you love the one: “I would rather not say”. Now that’s an ego boost if I ever heard one!
And yes, I know men are visual, well…so are women! but I still think closing someone out for “no chemistry” just from a pic, is totally disgusting! What about personality, fun, honest, reliable, and good looking too. But no, no one will ever know that, because they are not attracted to a pic on the flat screen they will never know…what a joke!
E-harmony matches you from the inside out, HA! Even a man sees your cute face but thinks “I can’t do her” forget it! I have nothing nice to say about E-harmony. I had 3 weeks left and I just closed it all out, and put in that I want an 100-110 year old man, why not?
I am very bitter, but I feel much better getting this all out and I don’t feel unattractive anymore! Thanks for all your comments!
Reading these comments has been entertaining, if nothing else. I spent about 90 minutes answering E-Harmony’s extensive online questionaire, in 2003…shortly after they first began tv advertising. After the first dozen pretentious questions I began to suspect a fraudulent service, but I stuck with their program, in order to get my ‘free personality profile’.
What a load of BS. Fortunately I would’ve only matched up with 2% of the available female dating population (at that time) in their database, and I sure didn’t agree with how they judged me or my preferences. All in all, it was only an hour and a half waste of time for me.
But I can say that I sniffed a rat at the time, and it appears I was correct.
I joined eHarmony a year ago and haven’t been active on the site for quite a while. But here is my experience with this site.
After the first 2 months of getting matches from out of state (when I specifically requested matched no more than 60 miles from my city) I got my first local match. Now I’m no prude, but after going through the multiple “guided” correspondence, we made our first phone call. This “match” proceeded to attempt to turn the call into phone sex (and he was very graphic as to how well he was endowed)! I was shocked.
We hadn’t even shared that aspect of our likes and dislikes yet. Shortly there after, I received my second local match. I am very social and outgoing. Again, several weeks of “guided communication” and then several phone calls later we met in person. This poor gentleman was totally overwhelmed by my personality. He could barely meet me in the eyes when speaking to me, and stuttered and blushed when he did. Again, a perfect match? I think not.
I wrote and called several times to see why they were more than willing to take my money, yet each and every match was a total miss from my personaity type.
I no longer carry an account with them, yet recieve multiple “matches” every week or so. Meaning someone on the other end as well is getting a “match” about someone who does not participate. Wonder how many of those matches meet that criteria.