Here’s a revealing review from a client of mine and pretty much sums up what I hear from everyone:
I signed up for a three month membership through e-Harmony. I was sent initially several matches. Surprisingly of the ones i was slightly interested in none responded to requests for communication. Of the few that i did make initial contact with it was terribly obvious during our first date that we had no chemistry and our personalities were oil and water!
Here comes the good part. I let my subscription expire…I didn’t cancel it. I still get matches in my email even though my account is not active! Which of course makes me think..hmmm….of all the supposed matches they sent me I wonder just how many did not have an active account????
I made a very nasty phone call to e-Harmony who coughed up a free three month extension. I have gotten total squat for matches. Again the same scenario…no communication, matches that are totally out of line. I am sure that when these three months expire then I will suddenly get a few matches worth looking at in the hopes that I will renew my membership.
I plan to call and ask “What percentage of your members report a successful long term relationship after being matched by your system?” and “What percentage of us report that your service is garbage and a waste of our money”??? I would also like to know if the commercial engagements and marriages are actors or actual matches through e-Harmony?
Regardless…it is sad and unfortunate that e-Harmony is commercializing on the fact of life that we all need and want someone special to love and cherish.
Save your time/money, avoid e-Harmony and stick with top dating sites like Match and Perfect Match.
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I agree, EHarmony is a rip-off. I joined for a “discounted rate” of $20 a month, for three months. I’ve been a member for a month, and none of the people they “matched” me with are right for me. Now I am lucky to get at “match” twice a week. How come they are all cement truck drivers, etc? Is this who is joining the site? (Not that there’s anything WRONG with that…).
You have no control over your matches on EHarmony. If you complain, they tell you to “broaden your horizons” in your questionaire. So, in other words, go outside of what your 29 dimensions of compatability are! What a total load of garbage. I’ll never join again. Go with Match.com. Much better site, and you have control and can see photos.
I just read Audrey’s comment and I have to agree with her on the “creepy” looking men that looked much older than they posted. Those “creepy” men were not interested in communication with me because I guess they considered themselves too attractive for me. I did start communication with several matches just to see if I would get any response but most of them would never respond and the others would close the match for various reasons like the famous “other.”
I actually did communicate with 3 matches and made it to the e-mail stage but that didn’t last long and they would just stop responding to my e-mails. I believe that one of them was married and the other one just lost interest. I have never got to meet a match in person. My e-harmony subscription expired and I’m not going to renew. I’m still e-mailing one last match, but he’s lives quite a distance from me and he’s still on e-harmony, so he will probably find someone closer to him. I don’t expect to get anything from the e-mailing other than a friend. He said to be patient while he sorts through the rest of his matches.
I don’t believe those commercials about e-harmony and they just take your money. I chose e-harmony because I’m not into the bar scene but I think I would have a better chance at the bar than e-harmony. At least at the bar men hit on me but not on e-harmony because I guess I’m “unattractive.”
PS - How do you close a match because there is no chemistry; especially when you haven’t even met the person!!!!!!!
I joined e-harmony for a 3 month special. I received lots of matches but not one that interested me. The men they sent me did not come close to matching the criteria I selected and very few lived near me. In one week they sent as matches a guy who stated clearly he was really only interested in sex and another guy who was a religious zealot.
I began to worry how I had answered their questions that they thought these men would be good matches for me??? The few communications I did have never even got to a phone call stage. What a waste of time and money.
I am not interested in dating right now but if I do return to the internet dating world it will be with match.com….I did have success there and at least you can search for someone that interests you, not rely on them to make selections for you.