Lots of people, guys and girls, recommend Plenty of Fish online dating (which I dub Plenty-Of-Flesh) because it’s free. I’ve been a member there twice now, and I haven’t been impressed either time.
The site places a lot of emphasis on photos, which has led to people judging one another not by their messages, but solely by looks. I’m not impressed with the forum moderator either, who has a firm yet obnoxious and stuck-up attitude to posts that raise questionable suggestions issues, even with the site.
Many of the people there have been rude and/or full of hot air, both in the forums and through messaging. Even the friendliest of messages went ignored - the sent messages list proved extremely helpful in finding out just where they were going.
Plenty of Fish advertises itself as a dating site, which is my biggest disappointment: the only people who’d enjoy Plenty of Fish are the average loud, outgoing people who already have “great” lives and have no intention of being serious.
As with most other places I’d suggest someone experience it for themselves, if only for them to reach their own conclusion. I’ve had much better results with Match and Perfect Match.
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POF is a total waste of time if you are looking for anyone who’s not into games. I have met a few guys there in person. They either had posted OLD photos, or were only looking for a POA. One in particular that I dated for a couple of months… He told me that he was falling for me, talked about the future together, even asked my ring size. But I knew he was still on the site and active. So I made a second profile just to see what was going on. And sure enough he hit on me immediately, saying he hadn’t met anyone there of interest until I (fake) came along. The whole time still telling me in person how much I meant to him, blah blah blah…LIES..He Claimed to be true, and sincere, and hated gamers but he was the biggest one! I let the cat out of the bag, and I’m sure he is the one who reported it. I was banned from the site forever for having 2 profiles. But I don’t for a minute regret it, I found out before it was too late that he was nothing but another LOSER on that site! Jokes on them, I found a REAL man, who isn’t a player. So Thank you POF for banning me, I would never have found this other free site and the most wonderful, caring, honest, and totally good looking guy! So, POF…..who needs you!?
I think it’s very possible that Rachel, who wrote User Review #113, falls into my second category of women who are mentally unstable (see my original post, User Review #114.) Are those not the words of a madwoman? And drop kicks and guns! I hope she’s not on ANY dating site at the present time. I would fear for her date’s safety!
What do you think, guys and gals? Is “Rachel” category #2 material or what?
Seems lately I have an opinion on everything, so I can’t pass up this opportunity.
ME: Male, early 30s/college educated/full-time job/avg. looks/ 5′7″
Because POF is free and someone can email/IM someone else without the hassle of buying credits or paying a monthly fee, I definitely talk with more women than I would on a pay site. I live in a small town and the people who used to be on the pay sites have cancelled their subscriptions and jumped in the POF pond. This itself is a good thing, and POF’s biggest advantage over pay sites.
The biggest disadvantage of POF is that the people who cannot afford to be on a pay site, specifically umemployed and/or unemployable people, can get on POF. As a result you sometimes end up meeting/going on a date with someone who may claim on their profile to be gainfully employed, educated, etc, only to find out they are jobless, have 3 or 4 kids that they neglected to mention on their profile. In short, you are more likely to get a fake on a free site like POF than you are on pay site.
Pay site or free site, though, the vast majority of people are superficial and pick and choose based solely on physical appearance. I do this to some degree of course, but I don’t expect to find an Eva Mendez or supermodel. There are some gorgeous could-be models to be found, but I don’t have the looks or the financial status to land an Eva.
What I’m trying to say in a nutshell is that dating is a hard, trying game for the average guy or gal. The beautiful people, the “Chosen Ones,” sometimes complain that men or women only want them for their looks. Wow, that must be tough! At least they’re wanted. I digress. Dating is hard and frustrating: you meet a smart woman but she’s 60 pounds (or more) overweight but states that her body type is “Average” on her profile. Next woman: has a good body but is dumb and/or umemployed, or needs psychological help…
Woman #3: attractive, mentally stable, but is visited by her ex-husband on a daily or weekly basis and he looks like he’d like nothing better to do than beat you bloody with a baseball bat. Now the question arises: is this woman worth dying for - not in 30 years from now but possibly tonight or next week. I usually decide I like life too much and give her the “it’s me, not you” exit line. Coward? Maybe. Probably. But at least I’m still vertical and breathing.
And then of course there’s me. I seem to grow bored with a woman after a period of time has passed. Things become routine, boring, stagnant. The flame is dying or has blown out completely. Soon it’s back to the computer to begin the whole process all over again.
But we go on, most of us, in the face of terrible odds, seeking our “soul mate” if such a thing actually exists and is not just a fictitious creation of romance- and Hollywood movie writers.
“Once more into the breach, dear friends. Once more.”