Lots of people, guys and girls, recommend Plenty of Fish online dating (which I dub Plenty-Of-Flesh) because it’s free. I’ve been a member there twice now, and I haven’t been impressed either time.
The site places a lot of emphasis on photos, which has led to people judging one another not by their messages, but solely by looks. I’m not impressed with the forum moderator either, who has a firm yet obnoxious and stuck-up attitude to posts that raise questionable suggestions issues, even with the site.
Many of the people there have been rude and/or full of hot air, both in the forums and through messaging. Even the friendliest of messages went ignored - the sent messages list proved extremely helpful in finding out just where they were going.
Plenty of Fish advertises itself as a dating site, which is my biggest disappointment: the only people who’d enjoy Plenty of Fish are the average loud, outgoing people who already have “great” lives and have no intention of being serious.
As with most other places I’d suggest someone experience it for themselves, if only for them to reach their own conclusion. I’ve had much better results with Match and Perfect Match.
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I figured I’d take a minute to translate a little of what I’ve learned about online dating, especially on POF, and the terms and phrases used therein.
First off, stating the obvious is a sure sign whoever it is is full of shit.
“I want someone who is intelligent, caring, honest, and trustworthy…”
No they don’t or they wouldn’t state that. Those are things you can only know about a person after getting to know them some. You are asking to be lied to by stating that. If a person says ‘I’m honest and trustworthy” to you… they’re usually lying. And you told them what lie you want to hear. No one ever says “I want someone who lies through their teeth, sleeps with my relatives and friends and robs me blind…” It’s kind of a given you want someone honest and trustworthy. If you ask for that you are actually asking to be lied to.
My favorite BS line: “Looks aren’t terribly important but some physical attraction must be there.”
Well no shit Sherlock… Have you ever read an ad that says, “I want to find a butt ugly person who makes me have the dry heaves when I wake up and see them first thing in the morning”
What they are actually saying here is, “I’m shallow and ignorant, talk to me and I’ll prove it.” These are the people who in the end use lines so cleverly thought up like “The passion is gone, or I fell out of love” No you got wet over some new face and are dumping the poor slob.
Everyone wants someone they’re attracted to. That’s a given. By stating it you are either ignorant or it’s an underhanded way to say you’re shallow and will always be looking to ‘upgrade’.
“I want someone with a sense of humor and an open mind”
Means when they screw you over they want to be able to say “Hey can’t you take a joke? You just have no sense of humor.”
Open mind means, if I want something, you must be open to it. If you want something then you’re selfish. If you don’t like my family/friends you’re closed minded. If I don’t like yours then I have class.
Rather than stating these obvious and usually pathetic lines. Try giving a glimpse into your daily life. Talk about the pointless day to day things that make you smile. Forget honesty or sincerity…
You know as well as I do, the guy down the block (or girl that works in the office) who is just plain or rough looking could be everything you list and you won’t give the time of day to them. That Abercrobie and Fich pretty boy/girl who’s going to sleep with your sister/brother and lies quicker than Bill Clinton about Monica Lewinski will be the person you agree to a date with, while telling the other person that they ‘aren’t my type’. I mean if you’re going to ask for honesty, try having some…
Plenty of Fish is a joke and should be taken in such a light. Most of the women are hefer dogs that you wouldn’t hit with a mack truck and - from the tone of it - most of the guys are pretty much jokes.
Some of the women I have conversed with have either insisted that we meet right away, exchange numbers after IM’ing for ten minutes, had so many personal issues, or had fat lady ornery syndrome. One woman even claimed that she was a good debater and could even debate the weather. I stay and just play around with my profile, writing things that may illicit a response, be it positive or adversarial.
I agree 100 pecent. Plenty of fish is a complete waste of time.
About two years ago I had gone on and went on a few dates. First off, each person had some sort of lie within their profile. One guy I actually stayed friends with and felt bad for him as he described how bad his life was. He generally seemed like a nice person and we stayed in contact and went out quite often, we started to date and became pregnant (now before anyone goes there, we used protection and it broke) once I told him he had no intentions of being a father.
He was a gold digger and used me for money amongst other things. Being 35 years old I felt somewhat stupid to be caught in this as i had waited to start a family with the right person and yet this is not what happened. Through the course of my pregnancy I had come to ‘really’ know him. A week after I told him I was pregnant he had another girl over and that continued on up until this day.
I have to say that although I didn’t plan my life this way and feel bad for falling for this guy, I got a beautiful child out of this. But a word to the wise, be very careful because this guy has a ton of women and is only going to use them for money and sex.