Plenty of Fish Review #381 by lovelylady168 on June 24th, 2010 at 2:00 PM CDT

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Like with most things in life I was skeptical of the site. A friend of mine had been on it for a couple of months and had been on a handful of dates and genuinely appeared to be having a good time. She encouraged me to join and after seeing it featured in the Gaga video I figured it was legit enough to try. Within hours of creating my profile my inbox was full with messages from guys from all walks of life professing their love for bike rides, dogs, roller disco and the TV show Glee (all things I had listed on my page). After exchanging a few quick messages I soon realized what the site was really about or at least what most of the users who had reached out to me were really after. Sex. Although most users list that they are “actively seeking a relationship” or “seeking a relationship” and state that they would like to get to know a person and see “where things go” two or three messages into a correspondence they’re requesting naked pictures of you or send crotch shots via email or text or are making suggestive comments but bookending them with a wink symbol or adding an “lol” at the end of the statement to see if you take the bait. The times I’ve caught on and told them in a polite manner to go *** themselves they’ve verbally attacked me and labeled me as having issues. So you can see my hesitation towards wanting to meet any of these slime balls in person. Until the day I found myself at the end of a fish eater’s hook. His name was “Chris” and he said all the right things and looked damn good in a fitted tee. We spoke on the phone a couple of times and exchanged texts and within days he wanted to meet up. Since he was a Jersey boy and I happened to be attending a show that day with some friends I thought why not? I informed him via text that I had some time to kill prior to the show and was driving around with a friend and suggested we meet at a coffee house. He replied that he’d prefer it to be one on one because he had been on first dates where the girl has brought a friend along and it made for an awkward meeting. It sounded reasonable enough so I told him I understood and talked it over with my girlfriend and she agreed to drop me off at a public location and drive around until I was ready for her to pick me up. I updated him on the situation and still was unhappy with the scenario. A smarter person would have saw this as a clear indicator that this person’s intentions were less than honorable but being the naïve girl I can sometimes be when it comes to men and the fact that I never seem to land any at least not for very long I brushed away any negative thoughts. He had also said that by the time we drove into his town he’d be running late for work so he said he’d give me a call to reschedule. The following day he reached out and asked to see me. It was a rainy Sunday and I had nothing else better to do so again I suggested meeting up at a public venue. He suggested we meet at my place instead. I told him no via text and within minutes my phone rang it was him. He asked me why I was being so difficult? And that the whole point of the site was to meet new people and see if there’s a connection and that the only way we could vibe off each other is by meeting in person. I agreed but retorted that we can have said vibe at Starbucks not just at my house. He finally gave in and I texted him the address to the nearest Starbucks. He was unable to find parking and suggested we drive around the area instead or at least until parking became available. I was hesitant but like a sucker got into his car. He drove rather recklessly, making sharp turns, making u-turns without signaling and after about 10 minutes I felt nauseous. He complimented me on my legs and slapped my thigh. I brushed his hand off and avoided making eye contact. He went on and on about how he was who he had said he was and said, “See, I look normal don’t I?” and I laughed and said. “Yea, as far as I can tell…” When he wasn’t cutting corners or downplaying his road rage he’d make small talk, glance my direction and at one point asked me if I was wearing a bra. I said of course and shifting in my seat which he took as an open invitation to grab my left boob. I slapped his hand away and he said, “Why are you acting so modest, I know how you Latin girls are.” Not only had I just been sexually harassed but he was stereotyping me as being easy just because of my race. I was visibly uncomfortable and either he didn’t pick up on it or he didn’t care. He parked nearby and walked me to my building and insisted on going upstairs. I sat down on the front steps of the apartment and told him that was as far as he was getting. He laughed and asked if I was being serious and told him I was. He sat beside me and bitched and moaned about had he known I was going to be that difficult he wouldn’t have driven all the way over there. After that awkward encountered I felt guilty and texted him asking him if he made it back home OK. He didn’t reply. Days later, I had added him to my “favorites” on the POF website and found out that I had been deleted from his favorites list. I sent him a quick message apologizing, which I immediately regretted since I had no reason to apologize in the first place to which he responded “you’re coming on a bit strong and it’s a bit of a turn off.” Clearly he was confusing me with someone else right? I mean this was the guy that within a few seconds of knowing me was slapping my thigh and grabbing my boob and insisting on sleeping with me and I’m the one coming on a bit strong? This guy was nuts. I decided that since there was no chance in hell I would ever see this guy again I could stand up for myself one last time and give him what he rightfully had coming to him. I wrote back, “yea…keep telling yourself that. If anything I was just trying to be friendly so that things wouldn’t be awkward primarily for me. But you were clearly turned off the moment you couldn’t get what you wanted…I was naive to believe you would actually keep your hands to yourself that day.” And left it at that. Now it’s a lot easier to spot those shiesty fishes and scumbags that feed off the naïve and women with low self-esteems. Hopefully this will serve as a cautionary tale for young women who are exploring or engaging in internet dating. Beware of sharks, never give out your home address or invite them to your home and if you do agree to meet up with them make sure it’s at a public venue and let loved ones know you’re meeting up with this person send them a photo and text them the location you’ve agreed upon just in case.

Like with most things in life I was skeptical of the site. A friend of mine had been on it for a couple of months and had been on a handful of dates and genuinely appeared to be having a good time. She encouraged me to join and after seeing it featured in the Gaga video I figured it was legit enough to try. Within hours of creating my profile my inbox was full with messages from guys from all walks of life professing their love for bike rides, dogs, roller disco and the TV show Glee (all things I had listed on my page). After exchanging a few quick messages I soon realized what the site was really about or at least what most of the users who had reached out to me were really after. Sex. Although most users list that they are "actively seeking a relationship" or "seeking a relationship" and state that they would like to get to know a person and see "where things go" two or three messages into a correspondence they're requesting naked pictures of you or send crotch shots via email or text or are making suggestive comments but bookending them with a wink symbol or adding an "lol" at the end of the statement to see if you take the bait.

The times I've caught on and told them in a polite manner to go *** themselves they've verbally attacked me and labeled me as having issues. So you can see my hesitation towards wanting to meet any of these slime balls in person. Until the day I found myself at the end of a fish eater's hook.

His name was "Chris" and he said all the right things and looked damn good in a fitted tee. We spoke on the phone a couple of times and exchanged texts and within days he wanted to meet up. Since he was a Jersey boy and I happened to be attending a show that day with some friends I thought why not? I informed him via text that I had some time to kill prior to the show and was driving around with a friend and suggested we meet at a coffee house. He replied that he'd prefer it to be one on one because he had been on first dates where the girl has brought a friend along and it made for an awkward meeting. It sounded reasonable enough so I told him I understood and talked it over with my girlfriend and she agreed to drop me off at a public location and drive around until I was ready for her to pick me up. I updated him on the situation and still was unhappy with the scenario. A smarter person would have saw this as a clear indicator that this person's intentions were less than honorable but being the naïve girl I can sometimes be when it comes to men and the fact that I never seem to land any at least not for very long I brushed away any negative thoughts. He had also said that by the time we drove into his town he'd be running late for work so he said he'd give me a call to reschedule.

The following day he reached out and asked to see me. It was a rainy Sunday and I had nothing else better to do so again I suggested meeting up at a public venue. He suggested we meet at my place instead. I told him no via text and within minutes my phone rang it was him. He asked me why I was being so difficult? And that the whole point of the site was to meet new people and see if there's a connection and that the only way we could vibe off each other is by meeting in person. I agreed but retorted that we can have said vibe at Starbucks not just at my house. He finally gave in and I texted him the address to the nearest Starbucks.

He was unable to find parking and suggested we drive around the area instead or at least until parking became available. I was hesitant but like a sucker got into his car. He drove rather recklessly, making sharp turns, making u-turns without signaling and after about 10 minutes I felt nauseous. He complimented me on my legs and slapped my thigh. I brushed his hand off and avoided making eye contact. He went on and on about how he was who he had said he was and said, "See, I look normal don't I?" and I laughed and said. "Yea, as far as I can tell…" When he wasn't cutting corners or downplaying his road rage he'd make small talk, glance my direction and at one point asked me if I was wearing a bra. I said of course and shifting in my seat which he took as an open invitation to grab my left boob. I slapped his hand away and he said, "Why are you acting so modest, I know how you Latin girls are."

Not only had I just been sexually harassed but he was stereotyping me as being easy just because of my race. I was visibly uncomfortable and either he didn't pick up on it or he didn't care. He parked nearby and walked me to my building and insisted on going upstairs. I sat down on the front steps of the apartment and told him that was as far as he was getting. He laughed and asked if I was being serious and told him I was. He sat beside me and bitched and moaned about had he known I was going to be that difficult he wouldn't have driven all the way over there.

After that awkward encountered I felt guilty and texted him asking him if he made it back home OK. He didn't reply. Days later, I had added him to my "favorites" on the POF website and found out that I had been deleted from his favorites list. I sent him a quick message apologizing, which I immediately regretted since I had no reason to apologize in the first place to which he responded "you're coming on a bit strong and it's a bit of a turn off." Clearly he was confusing me with someone else right? I mean this was the guy that within a few seconds of knowing me was slapping my thigh and grabbing my boob and insisting on sleeping with me and I'm the one coming on a bit strong? This guy was nuts. I decided that since there was no chance in hell I would ever see this guy again I could stand up for myself one last time and give him what he rightfully had coming to him.

I wrote back, "yea…keep telling yourself that. If anything I was just trying to be friendly so that things wouldn't be awkward primarily for me. But you were clearly turned off the moment you couldn't get what you wanted…I was naive to believe you would actually keep your hands to yourself that day." And left it at that. Now it's a lot easier to spot those shiesty fishes and scumbags that feed off the naïve and women with low self-esteems. Hopefully this will serve as a cautionary tale for young women who are exploring or engaging in internet dating. Beware of sharks, never give out your home address or invite them to your home and if you do agree to meet up with them make sure it's at a public venue and let loved ones know you're meeting up with this person send them a photo and text them the location you've agreed upon just in case.

Plenty of Fish Review #380 by Marshia on June 23rd, 2010 at 12:38 PM CDT

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I'm actually relieved to know that other people have had the same bad experiences with POF because I was starting to think it was me!...And I'm a successful, well educated, single woman with no children and a lot to offer the right man. The "matches" I met were clueless, classless, immature, and basically just out for a "hit and run". Ladies...don't waste your time. If you're looking for Mr. Right, don't fish in THIS sea! I deleted my profile.

I'm actually relieved to know that other people have had the same bad experiences with POF because I was starting to think it was me!...And I'm a successful, well educated, single woman with no children and a lot to offer the right man. The "matches" I met were clueless, classless, immature, and basically just out for a "hit and run". Ladies...don't waste your time. If you're looking for Mr. Right, don't fish in THIS sea! I deleted my profile.

Plenty of Fish Review #379 by lucky7 on June 21st, 2010 at 12:57 PM CDT

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I completely agree with all the comments on this review section with POF. I signed up over a month ago, and most of the guys on here are not human beings, only interested in claiming to be something they are not, emailing you, wanting to meet, then nothing. Had 1 date out of it which was not good... beware of a user called JOHNPARKER1984. Very handsome, but an absolute player. Other users have said the same thing. His profile is awful, but you wont read that just look at how good looking he is, he knows he will get the attention that way. Beware girls, he has no intentions of meeting anyone. This site is shabby and cheap, not real honest people to communicate with, and they all have the intelligence of 5 year olds.

I completely agree with all the comments on this review section with POF. I signed up over a month ago, and most of the guys on here are not human beings, only interested in claiming to be something they are not, emailing you, wanting to meet, then nothing. Had 1 date out of it which was not good... beware of a user called JOHNPARKER1984. Very handsome, but an absolute player. Other users have said the same thing. His profile is awful, but you wont read that just look at how good looking he is, he knows he will get the attention that way. Beware girls, he has no intentions of meeting anyone.

This site is shabby and cheap, not real honest people to communicate with, and they all have the intelligence of 5 year olds.